Saturday, June 30, 2007

The Journey


When I was a child my family travelled a lot. My mom and dad would always have something planned for the weekend. Mostly we go to the beach, but we also go to parks, hot springs or visit my cousins.

I remember how I would always be impatient to reach our destination. I would be jumping up and down at the back seat with my brother and sister, asking my mom and dad, "are we there yet?" To pacify us they would make us count up to a thousand or they would come up with a contest, the person who reads all street signs would get a prize! Since my mind is so concentrated on what I'll do when I get there, I missed seeing the beautiful fields, the enchanting cottages and the cute stray animals along the way.

Nowadays, when we are travelling whether by road, by sea or by air I would make it a point to enjoy the scenery before me. I would breathe in the fresh air and drink in the beauty spread out before me. Now I realize it's not so much as the destination but what the journey has in store for me.=)

Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at PhotobucketLife isn’t just about getting to the destination...
The journey is the important part, what you take time for, the people you influence, and what you learn and experience along the way.
… it’s about the journey.

The journey is also where you find God
and where you learn about Him.

Things in life aren’t random and they don’t happen by accident. There is a wonderful plan at work that runs deeper than you know.
God’s force flows through life, affecting your personal destiny, and the destiny of the world you live in.

Don’t fall for the “big bang” lies that there is no purpose and no reason and you don’t seem to be getting anywhere.

His plan is on schedule and things are happening exactly when and where He knows they should. There is a reason for everything.
And You Can Make A Difference!

You are under God’s care
in this journey through life
and He loves you…

His love for you cannot be measured, contained, explained, understood, compared, or seen.

It must just be accepted for what it is…

REMEMBER...
...the purest, truest love
you will ever know.

…So don’t rush through life putting aside your time with God or enjoying your family and friends otherwise you will miss the whole point, and all that you accomplish and go through will be for naught.

Make the most of your journey by learning about Him, loving Him, seeking Him, discovering Him and helping those around you. Before you know it, you’ll have arrived at your final stop…

...and He’ll be there
waiting for you.

Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at PhotobucketHave a safe journey everyone, hope one of these days our roads will cross.

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Saying No to No


Have you ever been in a situation or a conversation where the person you are talking to seems to be always contradicting whatever ideas or thoughts you are suggesting? Have you ever been in a meeting with a group of people who were always saying that everything was NOT possible and that there was nothing they can do to help you solve the problem?

In my line of work I get to interact with people from different departments and different walks of life. It is sometimes frustrating to met people who are constantly blocking or negating change and progress. Our team was trained to be ready for just about anything. "Anything was possible if you set your mind to it", my boss would always say. "Think outside the box", she would say during our bull sessions. "Exhaust all options", "if there's a will, there's a way". Those words got stuck in my mind so when I rose from the ranks and became the head of my own unit I was programmed to think that all problems have a solution, it's just a matter of time and strategy.

So after spending many hours and days on several big projects my department was spearheading and the team that we were collaborating with seems to be saying "no" to everything, I was at the point of giving up. I kept thinking, 'if only, they would open their minds to the idea', 'if only they would see the bigger picture and not just timelines and deadlines, they would see that the solution was, in fact, very easy.'

When I got home yesterday I just can't seem to shake the blues away. I was frustrated and a bit angry - and I rarely get angry. I was sitting in our living room sofa, furiously flipping through this week's subscription of the TIME Magazine when I came across this ad from Shell-Real Energy. The ad was called, "Saying No to No". Here's the text that was written on the page.

"Isn't it about time that someone got negative about negativity?
Yes, it is.
Look around. the world is full of things that, according to nay-sayers, should never have happened.
"Impossible."
"Impractical."
"No."
And yet "yes."
Yes, continents have been found.
Yes, men have played golf on the moon.
Yes, straw is being turned into biofuel to power cars.
Yes, Yes, yes.
What does it take to turn no into yes?
Curiosity. An open mind. A willingness to take the risks.
And when the problem seems most insoluble, when the challenge is hardest,
when everyone else is shaking their heads to say 'let's go'.
Real enery solutions for the world.


My mouth was hanging open after I read the whole thing.It was as if the ad was written just for me and the magazine was placed strategically for me to read and skim through at that exact moment.

Being positive or negative are habits of thoughts that have a very strong influence on life.

The difference between can and cannot are only three letters. Three letters that determine your life's direction.

Positive and negative are directions. Which direction do you choose?

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Reciprocal Review Carousel

A very good linking strategy from Cotojo over at Secure your PC for Free. I hope you will join in and create more links to each others blogs. The following is quoted from Cotojo's page with the addition of some of the links I like to read.

— copy and paste the Reciprocal Review Carousel and instructions below this line —

Reciprocal Review Carousel idea is based on few simple and yet effective link-building and blogging techniques I have learned:

Build value of the blog by creating a link from within content.

Provide a value to community by doing a review on blog you personally like.

Link to YOUR blog has exact anchor text you want and helps you boost Google Rankings.

No more then 30 outbound links from any page to prevent penalties for link farming.

Viral effect of the link – as more bloggers participate, link to your blog with YOUR anchor text, coming from quality content post will spread.

Here is How to participate:
· Copy the entire text between the specified lines.
· Create a post on your site and put at least one paragraph explaining how you joined the Reciprocal Review Carousel.
· Paste the text you copied into your post.
· Remove the Bottom Review and At the Top add your own review with a link to a site reviewed, at least 2 sentences about the site and a note – Reviewed by: Your Anchor Text. Link your anchor text to your site.

Here is an example:

Life is just around the corner... is a blog about the life of a mom with two beautiful girls and her husband. She writes about her inspirations and the lessons she learns in life. Reviewed by: Sophiagurl·

Sites Reviewed:
WordPress Web 2.0 Guide is a blog providing very useful information on building your very own Web 2.0 portal based on WordPress. Detailed instructions and howto guides make it possible for anyone to create a sparkling and engaging blog and join the community of like-minded individuals. Reviewed by: Secure Your PC for Free

Andy-Coates.com is an original creator of Viralink concept and a blog publishing information on Magic, Personal development and blog development. I have found a wealth of information on getting your blog noticed and generating the traffic for free. Reviewed by: WordPress Web 2.0 Guide

FitForFreedom is well-established blog where you can find multitude of information on achieving financial freedom. Blog is run by Marco Righter and his writing style greatly adds to the value of information he provides. Reviewed by: Alex

Secure Your PC For Internet blog run by Colin and provides essential information everyone accessing internet should know. Identity theft is becoming more and more of an issue and by visiting his blog you can minimize the risk of being compromised. Reviewed by: Alex

VI-SU blog is all about WordPress, AdSense, SEO and Internet Marketing. Although mostly written in German I have found that using Google translate is worth the effort for his posts. Reviewed by: Alex

Home With Heather is a great informative blog targeting WAHM (Work At Home Moms) and run by … you guessed it – Heather Masson. Information on what works for her in Internet Business written is very easy to read and comes from her personal experience. Reviewed by: Alex

A Copywriter’s Blues blog published by Alex Badalic, a veteran of advertising turned musician gives you great food for soul. I have found some nice old videos of Johnny Cash performance and he has a lot more of vintage videos to satisfy fans. Reviewed by: Alex

Did You Smell That blog authored by one of the veterans on network marketing filled with business ideas you can use. David Ledoux is well known and respected in online community and now he makes his experience available via blog posts. Reviewed by: Alex

Best Damn Blog run by Richard Wing is all about Internet Marketing. Your visit will be rewarded by honest reviews, freebies and information you need to succeed in this cut-throat business without sacrificing your integrity. Reviewed by: Alex

PlugIM Blog is a support portal for a new post voting system and a contender that has gained popularity among bloggers. Active community that lets you promote your blog and spread your message. Reviewed by: Alex

Linkrain Articles blog is a great place to learn about proper linking strategies. Not only do you get access to the information but you can also ask question and Andreas Moser will dedicate an entire post to providing detailed answer. Reviewed by: Alex

Life is just around the corner . . . is a wonderful blog that makes you stop and think about some of the everyday things that we so easily take for granted. Through some of the posts you will envision things through the eyes of a child. Reviewed by: cotojo

Keeping the Bastards Honest Phil gives an honest insight into the world of the online scams and reading his blog will open your eyes to exposing the so called Guru’s and Scam Sites. Reviewed by: cotojo

Chatting to my generation Anja covers many topics including 50+, Ageism, Marketing, Tech Stuff for Amateurs, Environment and much more, a blog well worth reading. Reviewed by: cotojo

Life this blog is about the things and feelings that make you feel alive. A wonderful site that is full of life's lessons and inspiring and motivating stories and quotes. A warm place to be. Reviewed by: Sophiagurl

Only God Keeps Me Going is a very inspirational blog where you can find a whole lot of motivational articles and stories. There is a lot of love and heart in this place. Reviewed by: Sophiagurl

The Augmented Reality is a beautiful and intriguing site about the play of words, emergence and transformation. This site will keep you coming back for more. If you want soulful poetry then this is the place to be. Reviewed by: Sophiagurl.

Tom LeDree.com get inspired visit Tom's site and get a lot of tips on blogging, time management, inspirational quotes. A must read. Reviewed by: Sophiagurl

— copy and paste the Reciprocal Review Carousel and instructions above this line —

Once you have provided review about the site – let them know, and perhaps they will join the carousel. You will be surprised how fast your rank will grow and this time so will the Google Page Ranking. It is your chance to get viral traffic to your blog.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Growing Up vs Growing Old



Another good story...read on.

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.

I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with smile that lit up her entire being.She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids..."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age."I always dreamed of having a college education! and now I'm getting one!" she told me. After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery! I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! ! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing."

There are only four secrets to staying young... being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.

We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability.The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY.
GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.


We make a Living by what we get. We make a Life by what we give. Have a blessed day!

Sunday, June 24, 2007

an unforgettable vacation

Imagine sipping coffee in the morning with this view in front of you?


How about a nice massage along the beach while sipping a cool and tall mango shake here?


How about lying down in this lounger while putting on some oil?



I sat atop this rock just taking in all the beautiful view before me.



We walked hand in hand here, barefoot with the cool white powdery sand in our feet.



Willy's Rock in front of the resort we stayed in.



A final dip in the cool water before the sun finally sets.


A truly unforgettable vacation I had with my husband and I could not help but marvel at all the beautiful things that God made for us to see and enjoy. What could have made this vacation even more unforgettable? My kids. Ha ha. Romantic and dreamy as it was, I kept thinking about them most of the time. We will take them next time. =)

P.S. you can click on the pics for a bigger view.

The Rain


Got this in the mail today, it's too beautiful not to share.

One rainy afternoon I was driving along one of the main streets
of town, taking those extra precautions necessary when the
roads are wet and slick. Suddenly, my daughter, Aspen ,
spoke up from her relaxed position in her seat. "Dad, I'm
thinking of something." This announcement usually meant she had been pondering some fact for a while, and was now ready to expound all
that her six-year-old mind had discovered. I was eager to hear.

"What are you thinking?" I asked.

"The rain!" she began, "is like sin, and the windshield
wipers are like God wiping our sins away."
After the chill bumps raced up my arms I was able to respond.

"That's really good, Aspen."

Then my curiosity broke in. How far would this little girl take
this revelation? So I asked... "Do you notice how the rain
keeps on coming? What does that tell you?"

Aspen didn't hesitate one moment with her answer:

"We keep on sinning, and God just keeps on forgiving us."

I will always remember this whenever I turn my wipers on.

Isn't it ironic that sometimes the children understand life more than adults do. They can categorize things and feelings in neat little boxes and dispose of them whenever they think they are not appropriate for the moment. What beauty it is to be a child again.

In order to see the Rainbow, you must first endure some Rain.

Have a blessed Sunday!

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Ripples


rip·ple1 : To form or display little undulations or waves on the surface, as disturbed water does.

Like it or not what we say or do in our lives affect others. Like ripples in the water, a single drop sends waves in the ocean of life. Simple gestures and words could make or break relationships, marriages, friendships and families.

Sometimes your smile could brighten someone's day. A frown could be breaking someone's heart without you even knowing it. A simple "hello" could be speaking volumes to that person who is very shy. And a small pat in the back could be a start of a lasting friendship.

I remembered a story someone sent me in the mail. It was about a boy who was about to commit suicide that day after school. He took home all his books from the locker so that his mom won't have to clean it afterwards. As he was walking home from school, all his things in tow, he suddenly tripped and everything went flying in the air. Another boy came over to help him pick up his books. It became a daily habit. Every day this boy would bring all his books home and this new boy he met would help him carry all his things. They became the best of friends.

On graduation day, the boy who was always carrying his books home was graduating top of his class. He was given the honor of addressing the batch for a speech. Everyone was suprised to hear what he had to say. "Today, I want to thank a friend. This friend saved my life. That day I was supposed to end my life, but this boy came along and became my friend. I was suddenly given a chance to see life differently. The world is not such a bad place after all. So to you my friend I owe my life and my sucess."

You can just imagine how his friend felt at that very moment. He never thought that his friendship meant so much to him. He never knew how much helping him pick up his books that day meant to that other boy. Now he knows that you don't have to be a doctor to save someone's life. You don't have to be a great man with astonishing accomplishments to become a best friend. Sometimes, you only have to be you. And that's all that matters.

Reflections on life

Our life cannot always be full of happiness but it can always be full of love!

He who is blind to the view of our souls, will not enjoy and see life as it is.

The more you plan, the less likely you will experience chance, therefore live life to the fullest.

A true friend is one who holds your hand and thus touches your heart.

When we get married, we won’t know what lies ahead
Until we hit the waves of life at sea.

Life is reality without an eraser!
Nothing in the future, will correct those moments that you have missed in the past.

Don’t waste time with someone who won’t support you in time of need.
Always look at the bright side of life. If there is no bright side, wait until the future turns to light.

Don’t cry over what has happened in the past, but be happy that you could enjoy the moment.

Always remember the words from a true friend:
“I’ll be there for you”

Work, as if you don’t need money.
Love, as if nobody has hurt you.
Dance, as if nobody was watching you.
Sing, as if nobody was listening.
Live, as if this was paradise on earth.

Don’t despair, the nicest things will happen to you when you least expects them...

And remember:
“Everything that happens - happens for a reason!”

“There's no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”

Friday, June 22, 2007

The Dash


I came across this beautiful poem by Linda Ellis. She refers to the "dash" as the years we spend on earth and how important those years are. Please read on and be inspired.


I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
from the beginning...to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
that she spent alive on earth...
and now only those who loved her
know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;
the cars....the house...the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...
are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left.
That could still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
to consider what's true and real,
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
and more often wear a smile...
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy's being read
with your life's actions to rehash...
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spend your dash?

Watch the movie here:
The Dash Movie


We only have one chance to life, let's spend our "dash" wisely.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

in search for Mister or Miss Right


For the past few weeks I have been interviewing applicants for a position vacant in my unit. The batch of people that Human Resources sent me all graduated from the most reputable schools in the country. In fact all of them were Cum Laudes, the top of the class. Since they are newly graduates they don't have much work experience to boast but the organizations they've actively participated in and the interships that they had taken were quite impressive.

I was looking for someone who is a good researcher, someone who has patience to pacify an irritated client, someone who loves helping other people, and someone who is a prolific writer. A good sense of humor is also a must in my team!

In the thirty or so minutes that I have to interview an applicant I am supposed to be able to determine their interpersonal skills, leadership qualities, analytical thinking, problem-solving skills and what not. But what about the other skills and characteristics that are also essential for the position? How about integrity, love for work and trustworthiness, how do you determine that? Do you think good exam scores and and good psychological test results and passing rigorous interviews can ensure you that you have actually picked out a gem among the rubbles of stone?

I remembered a very unique interview I had with an American company I worked for a few years back. I was interviewed for more than two hours! The way the interview went it was like the hiring manager was convincing me that I was right for the job! How do you figure that? I was struck by something that he said to me then. I think that probably sealed the deal for me. He said, "you know my wife and I prayed for many days for God to send me the right person for the job and it seems to me that today our prayers were answered." And he looked at me with a knowing smile.

Of course I took the job! How could I not? It was the only interview I got into that acknowledged that God, too, has a hand in the selection process. And as it turned out, my prayers were answered as well. I found the 'perfect' job =)

John Maxwell says, "people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."

Finding the right people to work with is a tedious task. But saying a little prayer for Mister or Miss Right to come along, does a lot of good. I have yet to find mine - but it is something I learned that I also have to pray for. When you are chosing people for a job or people to enter in your life, it's always good to ask Him for a little guidance.

Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character and love for God to keep you there.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

can you hear me?



History repeats itself because no one listens the first time. — Anonymous

I was not really feeling well today so I asked my friend if we could have lunch somewhere so I could sip some hot soup.

Lunch went on pretty well and I had a nice hot congee. We asked for the bill and the waitress came back to give it to me. Noticed that both our meals were punched twice, I called the waiter and informed him of the error. He went to the cashier and I assumed he asked for the bill to be corrected. Another waiter comes to our table to give us the bill. I checked it and was surprised to see that nothing was changed. I was getting annoyed about it but since I do not have the energy to argue, I told him 'again' of the error. A waitress comes back to us with "the bill" and to my utter disbelief it was the same one! I almost screamed with frustration.

Listening is a gift. We hear the words being said but we may not really understand what it means because we are not really listening.

Definition:
[verb] hear with intention;


[verb] listen and pay attention;

Synonyms: hear, take heed


[verb] pay close attention to; give heed to;
Synonyms: heed, mind


Do you remember the days when you were interested in someone? Whether romantically or you just find this person has something important to say. Don't you remember hanging on to his or her every word? In the company I work for, all employees are required to attend a seminar called Five Star Customer Service before he or she reports to their post. It's a two-day seminar about listening and understanding your customer's needs. Even people from the top management are required to go through that. And I think it's a great help to our organization.

Most of my friends tells me I am a good listener. I asked them how I merited such a title? They told me I allow them to say what they wanted and needed to say without interrupting them with my ideas and my views, I let them finish what they had to say.

Listening, really listening for me is clearing your mind from all it's clutter and letting the words sink in, digesting its meaning and letting it seep into your heart. Try it, you'd be surprise to know that you've been speaking the same language after all. The language of the heart. =)

Here are some funny quotes about listening, thought I'd share it with you.

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Conversation: a vocal competition in which the one who is catching his breath is called the listener

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"You know, it’s at times like this when I’m trapped in a Vogon airlock with a man from Betelgeuse and about to die of asphyxiation in deep space that I really wish I’d listened to what my mother told me when I was young!" "Why, what did she tell you?" "I don’t know, I didn’t listen!" — Douglas Adams

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My wife says I never listen to her. At least I think that’s what she said. — Anonymous

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If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.— Anonymous

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It’s my job to talk and yours to listen, but please, let me know if you finish before I do. — Anonymous

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Women like silent men. They think they’re listening. — Marcel Archard

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The older I grow the more I listen to people who don’t talk much. — Germain G. Glien

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And my personal favorite: One advantage of talking to yourself is that you know at least somebody’s listening. — Franklin P. Jones

If I read your articles that means I'm listening. =) Happy blogging people!

Sunday, June 17, 2007

my visual DNA

somewhere there's a place for us


For many days I've been wondering how I can pay tribute to the most influential man in my life and I can't seem to find words to best describe him. I have thought hard and I have searched hard...all I came up with so far is a song. A song I remember him singing to me when I was a child. It's a song from the West Side Story. And whenever I hear this I would always remember my dad.





There's a place for us,
Somewhere a place for us.
Peace and quiet and open air
Wait for us Somewhere.

There's a time for us,
Some day a time for us,
Time together with time spare,
Time to learn, time to care,
Some day!
Somewhere.

We'll find a new way of living,
We'll find a way of forgiving
Somewhere . . .
There's a place for us,
A time and place for us.
Hold my hand and we're halfway there.
Hold my hand and I'll take you there
Somehow,
Some day,
Somewhere!

A man is loved not for how tall he stands but for how often he bends to help, comfort and teach.

Tay,

When I was a child I used to wonder why you always had long and outstretched arms, I thought it looked funny then, now I know that those arms would always be there to comfort me when I'm sad and hug me when I fall.

When I was a child I used to wonder how tall you looked from where I was standing, I thought you looked like a tree, now I know that those shoulders were made strong so that you can lift me up high and I'd feel as if I could almost touch the sky.

You were always eager to listen to everything I said and as small as I am then, you made me feel like I was six feet tall. You always made me feel important. No matter how small I was, my opinion always counted.

And when I was talking about my dreams, you always made me feel like I could do anything I set my mind to. You never told me I couldn't, you always said everything was possible, if I prayed for it.

I remember a time when you couldn't give me something I asked for, I was crying in my sleep. You sat by the bedside brushing aside my hair to show my face and you dried every tear with your knuckles and you whispered to my ear, "do not cry my love, hush now, i will buy it tomorrow." I know it was probably out of your budget but you always did what you promised. And that's how I know that I can trust you, you have not broken any promises.

I could not have asked for a better father than you.

We have been through a lot but you have always come out strong, always hopeful and trusting in God's plan. It is through you that I learned the power of prayer. And that hope is something everybody needs to get by.

We may not always be together but you are always in my heart. Our hearts. There is never a day that passes that I do not wish for your safety and happiness.

Thank you so much for your love. It is your love that helped me grow into a loving and God-fearing person. I hope I can be even half of the parent you were to us.

Today I want you to see how beautiful you are through my eyes.




I LOVE YOU DAD!

Saturday, June 16, 2007

A Father's Love Letter




My Child,

You may not know me, but I know everything about you. Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up. Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways.Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image. Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book. Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live. Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother's womb. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born. Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented by those who don't know me. John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love. 1 John 4:16
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father. 1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could. Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect father. Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand. James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs. Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope. Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore. Psalms 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul. Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things. Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me. Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine. Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager. 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you. Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart. Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes. Revelation 21:3-4
And I'll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth. Revelation 21:3-4
I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus. John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being. Hebrews 1:3
He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you. Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you. 1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love. Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me. 1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again. Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I'll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen. Luke 15:7
I have always been Father, and will always be Father. Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is…Will you be my child? John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you. Luke 15:11-32


Love, Your Dad,

Almighty God




Love Letter used by permission Father Heart Communications Copyright 1999-2006 www.FathersLoveLetter.com'

Friday, June 15, 2007

Letting Go...


Lansy tagged me to write an article about letting go. I don't know if I'm doing this right but here's an article I wrote for this meme.

Last weekend I was cleaning our upstairs bedroom, it was really hot and humid and I almost gave up the task because the heat is making me lazy. But I was determined to do it that day because I have been putting it off for quite some time now. I cannot put off any longer, the room is practically begging to be cleaned.

While I was rummaging through our things, I was surprised to realize how much junk we have accumulated over the years. I was torn between throwing them out, keeping them or giving it away. I was in a dilemma. Each item brings back memories and I was torn between common sense and the sentimental values attached to these items. Should I let go of the past or not?

My mind tells me that I have survived some years without realizing they were there at all, hiding under the other piles of things, waiting for someone to rediscover them. So what difference does it make if I threw it away?

Those junks are like the excess baggage we carry in our lives - fears, the past, old hang-ups that we can't seem to part with. Things and feelings that we hold on hoping that the people who were part of that past will not leave us. Little do we know that we don't totally leave people or feelings behind, we take a part of them with us and we also leave a part of ourselves behind.

Deciding that life is worth moving forward and shedding the past to make way for the future is something we all do everyday. Having the courage to actually grab the chance and do it is somethingelse. “Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

Throwing it away seemed a good idea. So with a heavy heart I put letters, papers, items of my past in a trash bag and never looked back. I decided to still keep some, those that were still usable. And after I did that, as if by magic, our room was transformed. Suddenly there were more spaces to move things around, the kids play area looked very nice indeed.

I'm beggining to like this letting go thing. “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou


Thursday, June 14, 2007

Tagged Again!

I've been tagged by my sister Buchiko, Susie J and Louann

Since three of them tagged me for the same meme i'm going to change the first part a bit. Hope you guys don't mind. =)

INSTRUCTIONS: Remove the blog in the top spot from the following list and bump everyone up one place. Then add your blog to the bottom slot, like so.

1)Buchiko
2) Susie J
3)Louann
4)Life is just around the corner


Next select five people to tag: (if you haven’t done it already)

1)Pieter Marbun
2) Michiko
3)Blog to Profit
4) Tom Ledree
5) Lansy

What were you doing ten years ago?
I was getting jittery and nervous as my wedding day draws nearer and nearer. - Cold feet?

What were you doing 1 year ago?
We spent the weekend in Tagaytay and my daughter Zoe was bitten by an ant and got allergies! We ended up in a hospital.

Five Snacks You Enjoy:
1. Fruits - all kinds.
2. Nuts (almonds and peanuts)
Sorry, I'm not much of a snacker so I only have two on my list.

Five Songs to Which You Know all the Lyrics:
1. What Matters Most - Kenny Rankin
2. Sunday Mornings - Maroon 5
3. Sunlight - Kevin Lettau
4. Waiting in Vain - Annie Lennox
5. Need to be Next to you - Leigh Nash

Five Things You Would Do If You Were a Millionaire:
1. Go on a long vacation in Paris. - I am so in love with this place.
2. Ensure my family's future through investments. - gotta make sure it lasts!
3. Give money to my favorite charities - orphans, home for the aged and Gawad Kalinga. - I've spent some time in all three and I love these people a lot!
4. Give my mom and dad their dream vacation.
5. Do anything financially possible to help my sister get pregnant. - I want her to receive this gift of love as well =)

Five Bad Habits:
1. Procrastination
2. Worrying too much
3. Tendency to obsess about things that worry me
4. Hating people who waste time hating other people - i think this is suppose to be a good habit =)
5. Shopping incessantly for bags and wallets

Five things you like doing:
1. Watching my kids sleep and wonder what they'll be when they grow up.
2. Friday-night dates with my hubby
3. Blogging and lurking other blogs
4. Writing about life
5. Reading good books

Five things you'll never wear again
1. Boldly patterned/printed shirts
2. Blouse with shoulder pads
3. Lacey blouses
4. My hair up with Aqua Net
5. Pleated pants and skirts

Five favorite "toys"
1. Laptop
2. I-pod
3. Sony digicam
4. MP3 player
5. Our new Honda

Phew! that was a long one. I hope that these information won't scare you people off! =) God bless you all!

Monday, June 11, 2007

what happens to the sun when it sets?



"Mommy where does the sun go when it sets?", my daughter once asked me. I told her it goes to shine at the other side of the world. "Why?", she asks further. "So that other people can see clearly in the light of day and feel warm from the cold."

I don't know why, but sunsets have this strange effect of making me feel lonely and sad. It was said that one of the best sunsets are seen here in Manila Bay. And I've seen quite a few, it is quite majestic how the sun seem to touch the water, you could almost hear it sizzle from the scorching heat. Splashes of yellow gold seem to scatter the sky, as if night and day are bidding each other goodbye.

I guess, I consider sunset as an ending of a glorious day. Like a child wanting to play all day, I now have to go inside and wash up before dinner starts - we all know how sad that was then. When darkness sets, I have to confront my fears again, the ones I'm hiding from. But I am starting to learn how to deal with fear. I remembered a long long time ago as a child, I was so afraid of the "monster" inside my bedroom cabinet. I would bury myself inside the thick blanket and sweat all night paralyzed in fear, wondering when that monster would come out and grab me. But one time I got so fed up with it and decided to confront it. I opened the cabinet door wide open and dared the monster to come out and get me right now because I am really fed up with him! I waited and waited and nothing happened. I had the courage to look inside and guess what's there? only my clothes! That was a turning point for a nine-year-old. I realized that sometimes you have to look fear in the eye and tell him to go scare someone else! It worked for me then. I hope it works for me again.

I particularly like this quote from Elenor Roosevelt, You Learn By Living. 1960
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself. "I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along."

As if by coincidence, I came across this piece of paper with some words written on it as I was cleaning our room this morning. It says, "It is not what we do for God that matters but what we will allow Him to do for us."

Slowly but surely I begin to realize that for every sunset in my life there is a promise of sunrise. I recall a day when I was feeling particularly sad and my daughter Pia, being a sensitive child that she was said, "Don't be sad mommy, I will take care of you." I looked at her cherubic face and I could see how earnest and concerned she looked. I said, "thank you honey, I guess I just miss the sun." She then says, "don't worry it will come back, it's just over at the other side of the world, so that other people can see clearly in the light of day and feel warm from the cold." And just like that my fears seem to have melted away.

Saturday, June 09, 2007

more than meets the eye...



“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anais Nin

I love people watching. Whenever we are driving somewhere, I watch the people we pass by. I see some laughing, some are smiling, some seem to be shouting at someone, and someone is just sitting there - seemingly deep in thought. I wonder what's going on inside their minds. What are they worrying about? What makes them laugh? or cry?

When I see a beautiful house, I would always wonder if the people inside are as beautiful as the place they are living in. I wonder if the beautiful well-manicured lawn is an indication of how immaculate and clean their hearts are? Do they ever worry about anything? I guess not so much. They have everything it seems. What else could they possibly need?

In my job, I get to meet and talk to a lot of people. Some have a big sense of self-importance, some seem to always be the source of jokes around the place, some seem content and smiling and some looked always jittery and worried. The people I work with are good examples that what we see is not always what we get.

Getting to know them deeper I learned that that person who always made light jokes about everything had really great problems at home, some too painful to even talk about. And that person who looked always worried and jittery was scared of committing a mistake - because she was reprimanded hard when she was a child, that person always wanted confirmation that what she is doing is right. And that person who seem to think too much of what she can do? - really thought very little of herself and it was through boasting that she convinces herself that she is not so bad. And there is also that person, who everybody does not seem to get along with? She just wanted acceptance and being biting and testy is just a defence-mechanism she puts up so she won't get hurt when someone says not-so good things about her.

Everybody has a uniqueness that is ours and ours alone. How we live our life and how we deal with others make us who we are. When I meet new people I try to look deeper, what this person shows upfront may not always be what's inside.

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” - Dr. Seuss.

I just love this song, from the movie - Charlotte's Web, it's called Ordinary Miracle by Sarah McLachlan.



We are all part of a miracle. A miracle called life.

Friday, June 08, 2007

and more came...


Sweet Girl over at My Life and My Views also wants to share a recent unexpected blessing she received during her parents anniversary. The article is called, "I am blessed". She lives up to her name Sweet Girl. She wrote a post every parent only dream of in their lifetime. I hope my daughters would be as thoughtful as she is to her mom and dad. And I pray that more blessings come your way, Sweet Girl.

A few minutes back I stumbled upon Hummie over at Look to the Lord blog. She posted a blessings article called, "Too Blessed To Be Stressed, Too Annointed to be Disappointed" she enjoys Christian writings from other people as long as it is directed to His Word, worship and prayer. Thank you Hummie for sharing this post here. May you always be too blessed to be stressed about life's struggles.

Thursday, June 07, 2007

my little angel

It's my three-year-old's first day of school today. For the past few days she has been asking me non-stop if today was 'D' day. And I would say, "not yet honey". To which she would always reply "Oh Man!". She seemed really excited about school that I knew she was looking forward to it. I woke up very early today to make sure that everything was set. I had my nanny cook the kid's favorite breakfast treat. Zoe woke up with an excited smile on her face, "Mommy is this the day?" she said. I said, "Uh huh", nodding my head. She jumped up and said, "Yipee!". She ate breakfast with gusto and I smiled to myself...this was going to be a breeze.

NOT! As soon as she finished breakfast, she lost interest going to school. To top it all up she refuses to take a bath! We only have a little more than 30 minutes to get our act together. With a lot of cajoling and pleading she finally agreed to be bathed and get ready for school. That left me with less than 15 minutes to get ready myself. Hmmm, the day has not started yet, but I feel as if it was 5 o'clock in the afternoon already. Here's how she looked after. Nice and clean - with a silly grin on her face.




Before she climbed up the car, she turned to me and said, " I love you Mommy." And just like that, tiredness left my body. All of a sudden I became a little teary-eyed... my little angel...is not so little anymore.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

and it poured...


Susie J speaks about the difference between Blessings and Joys. She says, 'Never are we closer to our true selves than we are hurting. This is where we find out who we are, what we are made of, and how the invisible presence of spirit is always carrying us through life, step by step. And God Bless the days that are full of joy and free from grief.' She says blessings could come in many forms. She says, "Many of the external things we rely on could change and disappear. True blessings come from within and cannot be taken away. And I do find comfort in that some of the greatest internal blessings will always be with me." Thank you very much of such a nice post.

The next contributor is someone close to my heart, my dad. He wants to share his post called, It's Quarter to Three. Yes people, my dad's a blogger too! and I am mighty proud of it too. He is still quite new in the blogosphere but I'm very sure he'll pick up well. Listen to his heart as he talks about his struggles in life. He asks God, "As I gaze at the image of Jesus at the cross. I ask, what is the most painfull of all? Is it the nail in your hands, or the one on your feet? Is it the crown of thorns in your head or the open flesh on your back?" ... Only by grace can we enter into this blessed bliss. Only by grace can we stand and come into thy presence.


***Updates***

Cotojo over at Secure your PC for the Internet and Privacy has posted these beautiful Blessings. At first I thought this blog was only about techy stuff but looking deeper one sees that there is more to it than meets the eye. Inside I see a beautiful person who is generous with his knowledge, kind and caring to others. He quotes, “If you have knowledge, let others light their candles with it.” –Winston Churchill

I hope this beautiful posts will serve as inspirations in your lives as they have inspired mine. Let's keep those blessings pouring in.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

and they have spoken...


At first when the idea crossed my mind about asking people to write about their blessings, I was afraid that no one would heed the call. I was hesitant to press publish. But today when I saw all your responses I was filled with so much joy.

Shelly in This Eclectic Life has a beautiful post about her blesssings. It's called Work-It's Not My "Ball and Chain". She writes about her "gift of story". Her article is about how, by some divine intervention, she found a job that gives her great joy. Incidentally, the funny folktale she told was called "God Will Provide". She says "I keep telling stories, because this is what I was meant to do." What a blessing to discover your gift, make good use of it and touch other people's lives.

Pieter in Only God keeps me going wrote God in His Wisdom Will Take Care of You. The article talks about the secret of true happiness. He writes, "I have learned there is little I can do in my life that will make me truly happy. I must depend on God to make me happy and to meet my needs."

Thank you Shelly and Pieter for sharing. You are so blessed in ways you may never even know.


To those who promised to write their posts, I am looking forward to your entries so I can feature it here.

God bless you all!

Sunday, June 03, 2007

Have you been blessed lately?



“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.” - W. T. Purkiser

Blessings are miracles in itself. Everyday blessings are sent our way to help us get through our daily struggles. It may be sent through a friend, who suddenly calls you out of the blue when you feel you need someone to talk to. It may be a stranger who, by some unknown force, seemed compelled to ask you if you needed assistance. It may be a post in someone's blog that somehow seems like an answer to your heart's deepest yearnings. It may also be just anything ordinary that you did to someone that made them feel blessed.

If you have been blessed lately and would like to share your blessings for us to read, you may join by linking to this post using Mister Linky. This is not a contest though. I would just really love to hear and read about the blessings and miracles in your life and I am sure that by posting or writing about your blessings you have already multiplied what you have received a hundred fold.

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"Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are they who mourn,
for they shall be comforted.

Blessed are the meek,
for they shall inherit the earth.

Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they shall be satisfied.

Blessed are the merciful,
for they shall obtain mercy.

Blessed are the pure of heart,
for they shall see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they shall be called children of God.

Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
Gospel of Matthew 5:3-10

If you are a recipient of a blessing, keep the blessing working by being the source of blessing to other people.

Saturday, June 02, 2007

through the eyes of a child

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Home is the place where boys and girls first learn how to limit their wishes, abide by rules, and consider the rights and needs of others. -Sidonie Gruenberg

Do you remember your childhood days? Well I remember mine very vividly. I remember how happy I was and how much fun I had back then. Although I had some fights with my brother and sister, we always made up. My parents were very cool. At our home, we had a voice, we can speak up and say what we wanted but always with great respect for my mom and dad. My dad would always take us to the beach at least once a month and we would ride a boat and have picnics.

As a child I remembered how much my mom and dad loved me. They hugged me a lot. I was fed well and I had nice toys to play with. My mom would always tell me stories before I went to bed and I remember her singing a lullaby to put me to sleep. I guess that was why we grew up confident and happy kids. We knew we were loved unconditionally.

I am currently reading the life story of Dave Pelzer. It's a trilogy, it's called A Child Called "It, The Lost Boy and A Man Called Dave. It's a very moving story of a young boy who was physically abused by his mother. This book is a must read!

Reading this story reminded me of my important role as a mother. We, parents have the great responsibility of guiding our children and making sure that they are well-taken cared of. It is also our duty to help equip them to handle life and it's intricacies. How my children sees the world and how they respond to life is first experienced at home. Their childhood memories will keep them warm on lonely nights, my hugs and kisses will remind them that no matter how cruel the world could be sometimes, I will always be there to love and catch them when they fall.

Friday, June 01, 2007

Some Tips for Working Moms Like Me


Moms usually have so little time to rest and to connect with themselves when they are so deep into their roles as mothers. And as if that role was not hard enough, most of us have to work for a living to make ends meet. Here are some handy tips for working moms and I believe this applies to stay-at-home moms as well.

Tips for Working Mothers
by Alyson Preston


Fulfilling the role of Mom while also holding down a job can be dizzying. But with a little planning and family cooperation, moms can make routine tasks easier, get family members involved and helping instead of asking for things, and reduce everyone's stress level. Try these tips out.

Teach Cleanup
Do you clean up toys, hang up coats, stow shoes, pick up laundry and make beds? Then stop it right now. These are things even 3-year-olds can do. When you come home, ask politely for everyone to hang up their coats and put away their gloves. Explain to kids that dirty clothes go in the hamper and clean clothes go back in the drawers. Show them how to neaten their beds. Resist the urge to fix or fold after they are done. After all, they're learning and helping, so don't discourage them or make them feel they did an inadequate job.

Delegate Chores
Ask your kids/spouse to help you. At mealtimes, small children can set the table, older ones can serve drinks, and everyone can help bring plates to the table. Teach kids to clear the table, how to get their own cereal and how to load the dishwasher. Have children take out the trash, teach them to use the laundry machines and have them put their own clean clothes away. Grant points or make a sticker chart as rewards to show your kids how much you appreciate their help.

Plan Your Morning
Mornings will go more smoothly if you do some things the night before: Pack lunches (or have kids make their own), lay out clothes, ensure homework is done, pack backpacks and check the calendar for after-school plans. Teach kids to get themselves ready in the morning by putting up a wall chart that lists "brush teeth," "make bed," "get dressed," "eat breakfast" and whatever else they need to do.

Schedule Quiet Time
Have each family member spend five or 10 minutes alone when everyone gets home. This gives you all time to calm down and regroup before getting dinner ready and discussing the day.

Plan a Work Schedule
Don't let work pressures eat into your family time. If you often work late, talk to your boss or coworkers and figure out a way to leave at 5 p.m. on certain days. Cooperate with your spouse to make sure you're prepared if one of you must work late. This way, your family will know certain days are family dinner days or one-parent nights, and they will learn to cherish those times together.

Plan Meals Ahead
Make only one shopping trip per week to buy ingredients. Get a cookbook that contains easy-to-prepare recipes. Double a recipe and freeze half for another meal. When you're making a salad, make double and save half for the next night. Keep lasagnas or other one-dish meals in the freezer for nights when you don't feel like cooking. Designate your most hectic night as order-out night and get pizza or Chinese food. Have the kids make dinner one night a week if they are old enough.

Schedule Quality Family Time
Strive to have a family dinner as frequently as possible. Plan a family movie night once a week. Plan a group outing for the weekend. Take the whole family to a child's sporting event.

Make Time for Yourself
Moms tend to put themselves last on the list, but regenerating your own inner strength and peace will go a long way toward giving you the energy you need to be a mom. So take care of yourself: Go to the gym, visit a museum, meet a friend for coffee, join a book club or work on your hobby. Make a deal with your spouse allowing each of you one night a week to do your own thing.

Be a Couple
Get a babysitter once every two weeks, or whatever is feasible, and go out together. It doesn't have to be fancy. Even a trip to the bookstore will help the two of you remember what it's like to be adults together.


Take a break ladies, we deserve it! Have a great day!