Tuesday, June 01, 2010

Don't Worry Be Happy

Laughter. That is something you'll notice as soon as you go inside my house. My kids laughing at something their dad did or said. My girls being tickled by their dad on weekend mornings or something good on TV. or a book they were reading. Reminds of the laughter that resounded my parents house when my siblings and I lived there.

Don't you always hear that phrase "laughter is the best medicine"? That is soooo true. At work, my staff are happy people. You hear them laughing most of the time, they are working and laughing and somehow the pressures of our daily grind seems manageable and bearable. I was reading Bo Sanche'z blog yesterday and I got this message "Go ahead. Do the most important thing in the world. Build your relationships. And be happy."

Remember no matter how hard life is right now, no matter how dark and grave the future looks, there is always time to laugh and be happy.

“Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.”

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Something New

Start of the week again and I just had to share this new stuff I learned today. Pretty neat huh? If you want to have some on your blog please drop by www.dailydropcap.com. Jessica Hische is amazing!

On Being a Mom

This is a belated Mother's Day post. I couldn't help but post it as it has moved me in ways I could not even begin to tell you.

You see motherhood has taught me soooo many things. Flexibility, I thought my heart was only capable of loving one but magically my heart can love many and have room for more. It has taught me patience as you may all well know. It has taught me how to use my strength well and much much more. Loving is the most important lesson of all. Read on.

The Girl I Used to Be
Author Unknown

She came tonight as I sat alone,
the girl I used to be,
And she gazed at me with her earnest eyes,
and questioned reproachfully,

Have you forgotten the many plans,
and hopes I had for you?
The great career,
the splendid fame,
all the wonderful things to do?

Where is the mansion of stately height,
with all of its gardens rare?
The silken robes that I dreamed for you,
and the shining jewels in your hair?

And as she spoke,
I was very sad,
for I wanted her pleased with me,
This slender girl from the shadowy past,
the girl I used to be.

So gently rising,
I took her hand and guided her up the stairs,
Where peacefully sleeping,
my babies lay, innocent, sweet and fair,

And I told her that these are my only gems,
and precious they are to me,
That silken robe is my motherhood,
of costly simplicity,

And my mansion of stately height is love,
and the only career I know,
Is serving each day in these sheltered walls,
for the dear ones who come and go,

And as I spoke to my shadowy guest,
she smiled through her tears at me,
And I saw the woman that I am now,
pleased the girl that I used to be!

Not too late I realized that I could still be more that I can be. For mothers after all are capable of so many things. Mixing family and career is hard but with the love and support of my family I realized I can and still could be more than just me.

I could still reach the stars if I wanted to, go to the places I've dreamed of. Becoming a mother makes the experience all the more exhilirating because now the pleasure is not just mine to experience; now I can share it with my precious gems, my family.

Be true to yourself and be proud that you are mothers!

Sunday, February 14, 2010

A Very Romantic Valentine's Day

A belated Valentine's Day post.

Last February 12 hubby surprised me with a very romantic dinner. It was in a wine cellar restaurant. He had it all planned out. A bouquet of flowers were delivered to my office during lunch and then he said nothing in the car on our way home. We usually watched a movie on Friday nights, but that night he didn't ask if I wanted to see a movie. I thought it odd, but I also thought that maybe he felt a bit ackward because we had a small fight.

The Friday night traffic was ruining my mood actually. I wanted to get home early, we had a lot to cover the following day. PTA meeting at school, two birthday parties! Ahhh, just the thought makes me feel soooo tired already. All of a sudden he makes a sudden turn into this snotty-looking restaurant. I was aghast almost. Why??? I turned to say. And he had this ridiculous smile on his face. Surprise! Let's have dinner. And I went, "Dinner? Whaat? Here? Why this place looks expensive! A winery for petesakes!" I stumbled out of the car and followed him inside. Wine was strewn all over the place. Then a lady greeted us, "Sir, I thought you'd never come." They know each other? How? Hmmm, so he was here before? It seems the man planned this well. We were shown inside the wine cellar room, exclusive, dimly lit room with a table for two. Expensive wine surrounded us. The waiter went in and asked if we wanted wine and hubby said thanks and asked if we could have a moment alone. To say that I felt like a foolish teenager on my first date was an understatement. I was tickled pink!

I was blushing and he was smirking like a cheshire cat after licking a bowl of milk. "Happy Valentine's Day," he says, "Are you okay? It this okay?" I wanted to play hard to get. But I couldn't stop the smile that mirrored his from cropping up my face, even if my life depended on it. Of course I was okay, I was more than okay. I was happy! We had the place all to ourselves. We had wine, Italian food and just simply had a good time. Haha! Foolish man, I thought after 12 years he still manages to make me fall in love with him over again. After dinner he took me for a walk along the bay and then we had coffee. The man knew how to date! LOLz! Kidding aside, my hubby was always romantic and that's one of the things I love about him. I was happy to note that all this time, having two kids and all, still the love has not changed, in fact, has grown deeper and stronger.

Each day I thank God he gave me a partner who knows how to love. But don't you think that our marriage is perfect. We have our moments and our ups and downs as well, but I guess we know how to keep the love burning, we work at it each day. I can see the way my daughters look at the two of us when we hold hands or when hubby steals kisses playfully while they cheered on, they feel secure that their parents love each other. I am glad we can give that to them.

Some unsolicited advice, that worked for us:

1. Always make time to date. Just because you go home to the same house and sleep in the same bed does not mean that you have to stop dating. Make sure to fit in alone time with your spouse no matter how hectic your work life is. Hubby and I always go out on Fridays, to watch a movie or have dinner. Just the two of us.

2. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Hubby and I always make an effort to talk things through. That way we can clear things out, no grey areas...only clarity. Be truthful at all times. Trust is fragile, once broken you may not get another chance.

3. Take care of each other. Just because you take care of the kids does not give you license to neglect your husband's needs. My mom made sure I learned that lesson well. It's a work in progress but I always think of my hubby's needs as well as my kids as equally important.

4. Make your home a sanctuary where he can relax and recharge. Give the guy his own space to do his manly things. In the same way that you need to have your girl's day off, a man needs one or two :)Believe me he'll appreciate you more.

5. Love, love, love. Be affectionate and showy. Hold hands, kiss, cuddle. And never stop till you're too old to do it. The very essence of the relationship. When you have love, everything follows. Ann Landers say, If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

There are no established set rules really only guides. In reality only you know what will work for you two. But the thing is dear, always make time for love. It's the secret to a long lasting marriage.

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Making It Happen

What the mind of a man can conceive and believe, it can achieve ~ Napoleon Hill

I missed you guys so much! I missed bloggerville, I missed writing. Where did I go? Well, after that storm in September I received a "wake-up call". It was sooo powerful that I had no choice but to heed it.

During the time that my family faced possible death, I realized that for the longest time I weaved a lot of dreams but I never made time to actually make it happen. All of a sudden I became aware of all the things that I wanted to do in my life. The plans and aspirations that I made for myself are soon fading into oblivion because I have not made any move towards achieving it.

I froze! I couldn't believe I wasted so much time doing nothing towards that goal. I felt like a fool waiting for that apple to fall from the tree; I thought that by just wishing for the apple, it would make it fall on my lap, ready to be eaten. I forgot that I needed to plan and do something before that apple becomes mine.

I raced against time. I read books, attended seminars and got a chance to talk to some very successful people, as if they were sent to me by fate. I didn't waste time anymore. I decided to make all my dreams come true, one at a time. I opened my rusty closet of dreams and looked inside. The hardest part was something I hadn't expected. Knowing what I wanted. I thought I knew. I thought I am living my dreams already. I thought I was on the right track. But to my surprise, I wasn't. All this time I had set aside things that I really wanted to do and did other things that I thought a responsible adult should be doing. I traded a lot of my dreams for practical ones. I was failing myself slowly but surely.

I came across this wonderful e-book by Bo Sanchez just the other day. The book was called "How to Know if Your Dreams are God's Dreams". You too can grab this e-book at his website. I strongly advise that you grab it just about now. That e-book is sooooo powerful. It made me realize a lot of things in my life.

I learned how to determine what I desired most in my life. This first step needs a lot of thinking and soul-searching. But I promise you once you have determined this part...you are set for life. Second is believing it can happen, that you could make it happen. Last is taking action, as Albert Einstein so aptly put it “Nothing happens unless something moves.” I am on my way to fulfilling the last part, I am now moving towards my goals. That was why I have been away. I started my own online store last October. I didn't realize that I can sell. LOLz! I was becoming a businesswoman! Another dream of mine is to have an article published in one of the leading newspapers in the country. I am on my way to doing that as well.

So what were the desires that I have uncovered you ask? Well, here's what I have discovered so far. One, I wanted to get rich. I wanted to travel all over the world. I wanted to visit sooo many places, do the things I wrote down in my list of 1001 things to do before I die. I wanted to live in Paris. I want to taste that famous bagel in New York, I wanted to go to the Louvre Museum, I wanted to see Florence. I want to go to Italy and taste the most expensive cheese called Parmagiano Reggiano. I wanted to meet Ina Garten and Giada De Laurentiis. I wanted more time with my family. Oh boy, I want to do soooo many things.

What am I getting at? My friend, life is short. Are you sure you really want to waste it with feelings of fear of failing, bitterness and envy? Are you sure that you want to waste it doing something "safe" because your dream requires some form of risk-taking or sacrifice? My friend there is no time to waste. Decide today to become the person you always wanted to be. And make "it" happen!

I was particularly struck by this quote from Benjamin Disraeli. He said, "One secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes." Carpe Diem!