Wednesday, February 27, 2008

The Talk

A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once and by car forever after. ~ Peter De Vries

Okay, so I guess it's inevitable and yup the moment finally came. I felt all gooey and antsy inside. It felt like a million butterflies suddenly decided to take up a rent-controlled lease at the upper east-side of my tummy. Did I look green? Probably. Were my palms sweaty? Leaking, dear. Can I do it? Doubt it. Should I? There is no better time than the here and now. Was I going to faint? Ahhh, most likely. It felt like I was going to deliver the most important speech of my life and dear me, I think I'm going to puke!

It was the moment moms and dads are dreading. It was time to talk the talk. About the birds and the bees and err if kissing could make you cough up babies. My nine-year-old daughter was looking at me strangely with raised brows, as if saying, "Well?". I swallowed hard.

I remembered the very same talk I had with my mom way back then. I thought she was going to faint too! She looked so uncomfortable and green that I wanted to spare her the trouble. You see for the longest time I thought I was err a-sexual (neither a boy nor a girl) but my mom thought it was time for me to realize that I was different from my brother and cousins. And that it was not appropriate for girls to outrun the male members of my family in a race and that it was totally unbecoming of a young lady to be better in skateboard and go-carts and yup even archery! No no no! It just wasn't done.

So I had to sweat it out in that wooden chair while my mom, struggled, ever so poorly to explain to me the wonders of the female body. When I told her, " I got it covered mom, you don't have to tell me anymore." She looked relieved and yes dear folks, scared! I looked at her eyes and read her every thought. How come she knows already? Who taught her? Does she--? Did she--? LOL! And before she suffers a heart attack, I told her "Mom, our science teacher told us about it. Don't worry I'm cool with it." It was only then that she breathed a sigh of relief. "Well okay, just let me know if you have any questions okay dear?". She kissed my forehead and ruffled my long black hair. Ahhh it was over.

"Mom?" my daughter's voice brought me out of my reverie. Here goes nothing! So I proceeded to tell her about er the wonders of the female body and her eyes were growing bigger by the moment. Nope, I did not tell her specifics. I just told her how to take better care of herself in case the time comes. And as I was talking to her, in a level that she will understand I begin to feel comfortable. My great love for her, took over. I wanted her to know as much as her little nine-year-old mind could fathom because I wanted her to be safe and ready for anything. Armed with information, well not too much information, but valuable ones. It was done I made it! LOL! And I did not faint.

I hugged her tight and she hugged me back. Awwwww! My little girl is growing into a young lady. And all of a sudden I feel sooooooo old and ancient.

A little girl was asked where her home was, she replied, "where mother is." ~ Keith L. Brooks

PhotobucketI love you mom!


a. said...

awww, i'm glad the talk went well! i never got "a talk" and had to figure it out myself. lol. :-/ i think it's so important for kids to know these things and better from a loving parent than gossip on the playgrounds. btw, i just backposted an entry on florence that you might be interested in!

Sophiagurl said...

hey adelyn, lovely to see you back and I made the trip back to your blog. The pics from Florencce are awesome!

LOL! Well, I guess it's more of a formality sometimes...moms have to give the talk and hope that their daughters would listen to it. hehe.

Anonymous said...

lovely reading your post...mothers are indeed the most beautiful in the is difficult to imagine a world without them...the warmth, the care and the love that they bestow are second to none...just get mesmerized in the feeling with your daughter...have a wonderful time!

*~*Sameera*~* said...

That was so sweet dear!You have put across such sensitive issues in such a beautiful way.She sure is blessed to have such a mother.Bless You always.

Love & Hugs!

Impressionist said...

Aww..that was a nice post!
Well, I donno how hard it is to speak out and let ur kids know about such thing! but im glad u were able to tell her!

and *lol* U thought that u were neither a boy nor a girl?


stillwaters said...

Aww, this is a sweet post. I could feel just from reading your post how much you love your daughter. I agree with flyingstars, mothers are the most beautilful thing on earth. I've always told my mother that she's the single, most lasting influence in my life. Sad to say, she is in the hospital right now. She was rushed there yesterday due to severe stomach pain. I'm praying it's nothing serious.

I can't remember having that kind of talk with my mother. Maybe because the "talk" had already been explained to my class before it occurred to me to ask her.

Lena said...

i dont remember the time point where i got to know the bitter truth :D Neither i remember my mom talking to me but it might be that there still was a talk but i didnt take it important enough to keep in my memory :)

But then yes, nobody can explain these things to a daughter than a mother. :)

have a wonderful day!

Hailey's Beats and Bits said...

nice one. i have yet to start mine, but i guess they are just waiting. don't know how and when to...


Lisa, your mom is a GREAT mom and SO IS YOU :) (well, though I've never met her in person, I've learned about her from your previous posts ^_^) ..

I couldn't recall if my mom had that 'talk' w./ me. I guess she found it 'taboo.' .. Sex education by the nuns at school and biology classes did enlighten me .. LOL

To me it's a sweet post of yours as somehow we all see a glimpse of your great love and dedication to your daughters.

Loved the quote as well ...

Wishing you a blessed and BLISSFUL week ahead!!!!

Sending a hug for a great mom ^_^

God bless ~ annita

Sophiagurl said...
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Sophiagurl said...

@@@Kalyan - thank you dear. That's how I feel about my mom too...she is definitely second to none. =) Have a great week ahead.

@@@Sameera - Hi Sami dear, thank you. It was something I really feel a little uncomfortable talking about. Glad I was able to do it. Bless you too dear! Love and hugs back to you.

@@@Impressionist - LOL! glad you liked it. Well being born in a very conservative family I guess talks about sex and things related to it is taboo. That was why it was a little hard for me to talk about it. He he. You'll probably understand me when your daughters asks you about it in the future, hehehe.

and yup for a long time I did not realize that there was a difference between boys and girls apart from looks. LOL! my mom sure did a lot of good telling me about it most explicitly.

@@@Stillwaters - LOL! thanks! Well I guess it was my deep love for her that gave me the strength to get through it. hehe.

Oh so sad to hear about your mom. I hope all is well with her now. Will say a prayer for her.

God bless you and your mom.

@@@Hailey - LOL! I guess you'll feel when it's time, like I did. But I guess we will never be prepared for it, even if we practiced hard. Good luck dear!

@@@Annita - hello my dear friend, I am soooooo thrilled to see you here. *blush* thank you so much for the compliments will tell my mom you think so.

Like you, the nuns and our science teacher had a hand in starting the "talk" too, so it wasn't really shocking for me.

Thank you again my sweet friend, if there is anyone who is a dedicated mom that I know, that would be you dear. God bless you, hubby and sweet Emily. Hugggggsss back to you.

***NOTE : Sorry I had a little blooper here. I posted my comments on another post here by mistake that's why I had to delete it.=)***