Monday, August 27, 2007

Defining Me

The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well that's just fabulous! ~ Carrie Bradshaw

Another year older... and wiser, I hope. When I was much younger I thought when I grow old I would know who I really am and who I am meant to be. Little did I know then that each part of my life, my birth, my childhood and everything in between are moments meant to happen to make me the person that I am now. Every second, every event, every choice, every word, every move, every feeling is a definition of me.

When I am asked to describe myself, I often fumble at my answer. It's not that I don't know my description but I sometimes hesitate and wonder if the person asking wanted a physical description of myself or who I am as a person. I had noticed that when one is much younger, we define ourselves more on our physical attributes. Is she tall or short? Is she thin or on the chubby side? Does she have long straight hair or short and curly?

I noticed that I have matured when I started to see people as persons with feelings and character. We are often deceived by the physical that we sometimes miss to see the person behind the beautiful face.

I often wondered if I were not a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister or a friend who would I be? These are only roles that I carry out each day and there are so much more that I can do and become depending on what the event calls for.

Of all my roles being a mother is probably the most versatile. I get to play so many characters in a day, sometimes even within minutes. I can become a teacher, a healer, a friend, a playmate, a comforter, a superhero and sometimes a villain, a cook, a storyteller, a fashion consultant, head coach, a tour guide, a shopping guru, the book of knowledge and sometimes a dictionary and much much more.

I love those roles. It's something I want to be good at each day of my life.

I know I am still a work in progress. Each day a new me is born. I hope each one gets better and better and more and more the me that my Lord planned for me to become.

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.


Colin said...

Firstly, Happy Birthday and hope you have had a wonderful day :o)

Defining ourselves is very difficult, as others will often see traits in us that we don't, and as we grow day by day we learn something new, or do something different, for that is the way of life.

Being a parent requires a multitude of tasks, the most important are love, care and understanding. It also allows us to share our experiences and knowledge gained with our children.

We are ever changing, for we are the works of art created by the Lord, the canvas upon which He paints.

As it's your birthday, do you feel any older? No! We all grow older, but we don't have to be old, it's a state of mind.....

God Bless

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Colin - thank you my friend. that was a lovely addition to my post.

Nope, I don't feel a day older than 7 years. LOL. Getting old is, as you said, just a state of mind. With my kids around I don't have time to get old! LOL.

God bless!

louann said...

Happy HAppy Birthday! As we grow older, we grow wiser. I think that is one of the most beautiful things of aging :)
God Bless you!

Jeya Anand said...

Hey happy birthday...:)
And yes you are certainly growing wiser...:) said...

I love what you say about knowing you've matures when you see people see people as "persons with feelings and character". Isn't that the truth?

Thank you.

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Louann - thanks dear, God bless you too!

@@@Jeya Anand - haha, glad you think so Jattz. thanks!

@@@Martha - I'm glad you liked it Martha. Yup it's the truth =)

surjit said...

Happy Birthday Sophia.
In case you wish to define yourself in one word and that are a soul..
We are all souls.The physical bodies we are carrying are bound to be perished sooner or later...
A good thought provoking post.
God bless you.

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Surjit - you are right we are indeed souls and our bodies are just vessels carrying what means more inside.

God bless you too!

Rajeev said...

im sorry i missed out on ur b'day!
belated happy birthday!
Same here, I mean if someone would ask to describe myself i seriously wouldnt know what to say!
but I guess u can say that ur a mom with 2 beautiful kids! :D
hehe! cuz that sums up everything u are. since u play so many roles! to describe u in one word would only be mother! and nothing else! :)
Happy birthday once again!

peace & love

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Jeevy - thank you! better late than never is what they say.

a mother is probably the biggest and most important role that I am playing right now. =)

nice post today, btw.

jen said...

happy birthday (belated)! i really love reading your posts coz they are very me a sense of hope, most of the times... keep it all up!

zunnur said...

Hi Sophia,
We define ourselves from our point of view, and people look at us from different perspectives. Sometimes, we think that we're this and this, but other people see something we failed to notice. Sometimes, we only look at the good part of us, negative ego is the culprit. And too bad that some people only see the bad part of us. Its all part of life that we have to go through.

I know you as a friend. My blogging friends are wonderful people who are creative, kind and friendly.
Wishing you many happy returns of the day (oopps..I'm a bit late!), and hope you're having a pleasant weekend with your family.

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Jen - thank you and I am really glad that you like my articles. I really hope it helps others one way or the other. Hope to see you over here often.

@@@Zunnur - thank you my friend, better late than never hehe.

You are right there are different versions of ourselves, one is what we see and the other is how other people see us. God bless!