Sunday, January 27, 2008

The life of a Juggler

Last night when I was finally able to put my feet up and lay my head in my pillow, I did a quick re-cap of my life as a working mom. And I cannot help but visualize myself as a juggler.

It is only on weekends that I get to have some down time and just concentrate on being a mom, a wife and err a blogger. LOL! While we were cleaning the room and arranging books into two new bookshelves we bought to organize the kid's library, I came across this January 23, 2006 issue of the Time Magazine. The topic caught my eye, "How To Sharpen Your Mind". I set it aside for my bedtime reading and proceeded to do my other tasks.

This morning I was finally able to flip through it and gosh! there were a lot of interesting topics there too! The article "Help! I've lost my focus" written by Claudia Wallis and Sonia Steptoe really got me going. It was a look into a typical day in the life of Hollywood producer Jennifer Klein. I found a lot of things we have in common and I'm sure a lot of mothers and fathers out there could relate as well.

Here is a view of my typical work-day:

Heart @ 5:30am - Open the water pump and get the hot water running. Hurry back to bed and catch another 30 minutes sleep.

Heart@ 6:15am - Wake up! Kiss hubby good morning to wake him up and go over to my daughter's bed and kiss her good morning too. Dash downstairs fix breakfast, arrange the kids' sandwiches and drinks and also sandwiches for hubby and myself (no breakfast for me @ home since there's not much time)

Heart@ 6:45am - Take a quick shower! Usher my sleepy daughter into the bathroom to give her a bath (it's quicker that way) and get her ready for school. Yes, she has a nanny but this is something I wanted to do for my daughter since I won't be with her the whole day. (I guess I wanted her to remember that her mom is here for her no matter how busy she is.)

Heart@ 7:00am - Turn my daughter over to her nanny to have some breakfast. Again, dash upstairs fix the beds, take out my clothes from the closet and lay hubby's clothes in the bed too. Then as quickly as I can, get dressed, grab my youngest daughter's things for school. Bark out instructions to my nanny for my daughters' lunch and dinner and schedule at school. And then rush off for the office.

Heart@ 8:30am to 5:30pm - Gulp down my coffee and sandwich in my work area (that is if I'm lucky and not called into a meeting). And gosh, I cannot even begin to describe how my day goes by in the office. It is sometimes a blur to me.

It is mostly spent answering e-mails, talking to angry clients and agents, editing letters, signing this and that, negotiating at meetings, mentoring my staff, checking and monitoring if all is going well as scheduled, talking to my boss, meeting with people from other departments regarding on-going projects. Call my mom and my nanny to check on the kids. Call my hubby, just to say hello and "I love you" (need to hear that everyday so I can survive the rest of the afternoon). And yes, manage to squeeze in lunch and another coffee break in the afternoon. And then the whole thing starts all over again.

Ahhh, they say that is a life of a multi-tasker and yes we parents are jugglers in our own little way. In the same article I also found psychiatrist Edward Hallowell's "A Multitasker's Glossary" very interesting. Here are four new words I learned from him.

screen sucking - wasting time online long after you have finished what you signed on to do.

frazzing - frantic, ineffective multitasking, typically with the delusion that you are getting a lot done. The quality of the work, however, is poor.

pizzled - how you feel, when someone you're with pulls out a cell phone or BlackBerry and uses it without an explanation or apology. A cross between p___ off and puzzled.

doomdart - the internal distraction of a forgotten task that pops into your mind when you are doing something else. A side effect of frazzing.

Staying focused on one thing at a time is something we parents, especially working moms, find very hard to do. That is why I think it is very important to have time away or even down times at work to renew and recharge oneself, otherwise we might end up burned out and too busy for our family. The reason why we are working so hard in the first place.

Clock “Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back.” ~ Harvey MacKay

So, let's spend it wisely!


Anonymous said...

Hi Lisa,
We all have to juggle to get our priorities right I think...I keep dropping the juggling balls though LOL
'Screen sucking'....I like the sound of that hahahaha...
Lovely post. well thought out and written.
I think that multitasking has become a part of everyday life now hasn't it, more through necessity than need :)

Have a wonderful day, and hope that your week ahead is a good one.
God Bless my dear friend,
Hugs to you


Sophiagurl said...

@@@Colin - LOL! I kinda liked screen sucking too! I guess I'm guilty of that all the time haha. We are jugglers that's true and yes, I drop the balls all the time too! LOL!

Have a great week ahead as well! God bless and hugs back to you =)

Hailey's Beats and Bits said...

nice post! i can truly, madly, and really emphatize with you.


Hello Lisa :) ..

Dropping by to say 'hi' to a sweet friend :) ...

though I'm a FT stay at home mom now, there're couple things that I could relate to.

Loved my new vocabulary: the 'doomdart.' LOL. these days, my memory seems to function better on short-term ones.

Hope you have a blissful filled week :)

Sending you a bear hug (from a petite person)

God bless you, my friend.

ps. bye the way, I'm still on 'my leave'

Hailey's Beats and Bits said...

i am done with the tag... thanks again

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Hailey - I am so glad that we have a lot of things in common. Thank you for doing the tag. =) God bless!

@@@Annita - Hi there! thank you for dropping by. I am missing you terribly. haha I'm loving the new words too!

God bless you my friend and your lovely family. Wish to see you back to visit me here. Take care!

asimplelife said...

wew!!! now, that's multi-tasking! very nice post... though, i'm still single... i guess, multi-tasking has been a part and a must in our lives... hehehe! nobody really can't afford to be idle... not even the richest/ wealthiest man in the world... so, if i'm into it (multi-tasking) right now... i just can't imagine myself when i become a wife and a mother like u someday... good job, mom!!!!

*~*Sameera*~* said...

Woah!I wonder how you manage to blog in spite of this schedule!I just have myself to manage and still find it hard to manage time :(

As for those four terms,I thought only I used to undergo the ordeals they describe!He he

Have a nice and relaxing weekend dearie.God Bless!Hugsss

Lena said...

lovely post and so true not only for "parents"-group but for most of people out there as life has become too hectic.
and lol screen sucking is wht i do constantly and doomdart sounds damn familiar!!

J E E V Y said...

AH!Nice post there Lisa! :)
Seriously! I wonder how u manage everything!
loved the quote on the bottom!


Sophiagurl said...

@@@Jennifer - Haha, I think multi-tasking is applicable to all people in all walks of life. At this point in my life I am hoping to focus on one thing at a time. Sadly it has become a luxury to do that now. Thank you! =)

@@@Sameera - sometimes I wonder too! Haha, but my mom was able to do it - she worked and studied while she had three of us. So I guess I grew up knowing the moves.

Loved the new words too! haha.

@@@Lena - loved those two words as well, LOL! so glad you visited. A lot of people are into multi-tasking now-a-days I don't think that's helping us achieve our goals sometimes...but then it has become our way of life.

@@@Jeevy - Thank you! Yeah I wonder how I do it at times too! Glad you liked the quote, i liked it a lot too! =) Take care!

Jeya Anand said...

cool tips...
SO how have u been all these days??
finally i m back..i believe so... :)
Take care dear...missed you all these days...

Shinade said...

I'm a screen's true. I wasn't even going to do anything today.

Then I decided to share link love and got a wee carried away.

And the big game starts for us soon.

So here I am doing a hit and run!!


Anonymous said...

lovely reading your daily manage your daily chores so well...I'm so out of time everyday & interestingly I never wake up even before 8...perhaps thats the reason...have a nice time!

Hailey's Beats and Bits said...

i have something for you in my blog!

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Sophiagurl said...

Hello friends, I do apologize for not responding to you individually. Work has kept me away for so many days now and when I get home I just drag myself to bed and sleep.

Rest assured I do keep track of your comments and I treasure each one of them. Have a lovely weekend.

To my dear friend Colin and Jackie thank you both for the awards and the link love.

I really hope to be back with a post very soon. Miss yah all=)