Friday, September 14, 2007

Tears of a Woman



When was the last time that you shed a tear? Well, when I became a mom my tear ducts seem to have become quite active. When I had my bout of post-partum blues, I cried at simply anything! Dirty diapers, a soppy movie, abandoned kids in the streets, not having time for my kids, spending time with my kids. I never thought I could shed those tears at a drop of a hat!

Sounds ironic, because when I was a little girl it took a lot before I cried about anything. I never cried when I fell off a bike and grazed my knee, I picked myself up, went to the medicine cabinet and cleaned my bruises with betadine. I never cried when some kid in school hurt or made fun of me, I fight back! I thought crying was for babies then. But as I grew older sometimes when I feel hurt and frustrated about life or work and I cannot do anything about it, crying does me some good. It's as if those tears cleanses my heart and soul of the hurt I was feeling. Of course, when someone dries those tears for me then that makes it all the more better!

Here's a lovely e-mail I got about tears of a woman.

A little boy asks his mother:
"Why do you cry ?"
"Because I am a woman." she answers.
"I don’t understand," he says.
His mother hugs him and says : " and you never will"

Later the little boy asked his father :
"Why does mommy cry?"
"All women cry for no reason", is all that his father could answer him.

When he became an adult he asked God :
"God, why do women cry so easily?"

And God Answered :"When I created woman, she needed to be special.
I created her shoulders strong enough to bear the weight of the world…
And soft enough to be comfortable."

"I gave her the strength to give life,
The kind that accepts the rejection that often comes from children. "

"I gave her the strength to allow her to go on when everybody else give up.
The kind that takes care of her family, despite illness and fatigue."

"I gave her the sensitivity to love her children unconditionally,
Even when they have hurt her deeply."

"I gave her the strength to endure her husband in his faults
And to stay at his side without weakening"

"And finally, I gave her tears to shed whenever she needs them to be shed."

"You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, nor is it in her face or in the way she does her hair.

The beauty of a woman resides in her eyes.
It is the door to her heart ;
the door where Love resides.

And it is often through her tears that you see her heart go by."

“Tears are words the heart can't express”
…thank you for giving me a glimpse of…
… a better world…

11 thoughts:

Susanno said...

That was a great touching post.. good job..

Kalyan said...

lovely post...I read every word of it...you are so right when you say...the beauty of a woman resides in her eyes, which is the door to her heart full of love. It can't be more true....really touching post!

zunnur said...

People look at tears in two different ways, either deep love and concern or lack of courage, but I guess, everyone cries at one time or another in his life. I agree with you, tears make us feel better, look better, and it vents out the burden in our hearts, the grief and pain that we carry. It is a medicine to soothe us emotionally.

I guess, you was a strong kid before, physically and mentally!

By the way, I like the new look of your blog, it is very nice and attractive. Well done!

Colin said...

Hi Lisa,
Lovely, thoughtful post :)

“What’s the tear for?” the angel asked.

The Lord said, “The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her
disappointment, her pain, her loneliness, her grief and her pride.”

The angel was impressed. “You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything
for this one. You even created the tear!”

The Lord looked at the angel and smiled and said, “I’m afraid you are wrong
again, my friend. I created the woman, but she created the tear.”

http://grottynosh.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/

Have a great weekend my dear friend

Sweet Girl said...

I really liked the new look of your blog..earlier was good but this is better,,,,

Your post about tears is very touching.
tears help us feel better,,tears are our friend and also our weapon..
I don't cry so easily,,but I don't think anything is wrong in crying...

surjit said...

Truthful words:
'....The beauty of a woman resides in her eyes.
It is the door to her heart;
the door where Love resides...'
Thanks Sophia, for sharing this beautiful e mail. A good post.
God bless.

akanksha said...

That was lovely...I shed a lot of tears too...and they sure make me feel better...when deres nothing dat i can do to change things, i cry my heart out and it feels much better..i agree..A man csn never ever understand y a woman cries.
I got that mail too..it was such a touching one that i have it in my drafts!
Sometimes, the only thing a woman needs is to cry.very well written!

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Susanno - thank you Susanno for liking my post. I hope you'll come back to visit.

@@@Kalyan - gee thanks! coming from you that's an honor. I really enjoy reading your blog. I'm glad you liked it.


@@@Zunnur - You are right tears could be shed at different times depending on the situation. And if you must know, I guess I was quite a tomboy back then haha.

Glad you liked the new template, I actually loved the old one but it got messed up. I'm starting to like this one too, thanks!

@@@Colin - thanks and I loved that post too!

I just thought of writing about it since I've been shedding quite a few over work and thought I was wasting those tears over nothing, the e-mail was an eye-opener.

@@@Sweet Girl - Hey Sweetgirl, I'm glad you like the new template. I hope all is well with you. Thanks for visiting. God Bless!


@@@Surjit - thank you for liking the post. God bless you too.

@@@Akanksha - I'm glad you liked it. Yes tears have some cleansing effect, gives us some relief. Thank you.

louann said...

How beautiful this post is. I suck when it comes to crying - it is one thing that makes me feel good. It's our own way of expressing such which can never express.

Jeya Anand said...

“Tears are words the heart can't express”
That says it all!!

Sophiagurl said...

@@@Louann - thanks!

@@@Jeya Anand - Hey Jattz! how are you? How's med school? thank you for visiting=)