Saturday, May 12, 2007

the day i became a mom

i remembered that day very well as if it were just yesterday. my husband was cleaning the house with Lysol, mopping the floors, scrubbing the walls...every nook and cranny of the house should be dust-free, clean as a whistle - that was his motto.

i was in labor for 10 long hours, the pain was nothing I was prepared for, to think I had a big tolerance for pain. after struggling with the breathing and the pushing, my doctor said, "it's a girl!" and so Sophia Ysabel was born. the nurse put her on my chest and i cried, it was done. i was a mom.

from that day on, i loved my mom even more. when i was naughty then as a child and she was reprimanding me, i would always hear her say, when you have your own kids you will understand me. strangely, my eyes seem to have been opened. i can see what she sees as a mother.

but i was so afraid then, what if i dropped her? what if i did not know how to take good care of her? what if she does not like me? so many questions were running through my mind. but it was my mom who calmed me down, she told me not to be afraid. she said, it is quite overwhelming to be responsible for someone's life but i should let my heart be my guide. and so the day i got home i wrote my mom a long heart-felt letter thanking her for giving birth to me and to my two other siblings, motherhood is tough - anybody can be called a mother but not everybody can be a GOOD one.

and to you my MOM, thank you, thank you for loving me unconditionally and I thank God everyday of my life because you are my mom.

Being a Mother

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.

That somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.

Somebody said you learn to become a mother by instinct.

That somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother s boring…

That Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver’s permit

Somebody said if you’re a “good” mother, your child will “turn out good"

That somebody thinks a child comes with directions and guarantees

Somebody said “good” mothers never raise their voices.

That Somebody never came out of the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor’s kitchen window.

Somebody said you don’t need an education to be a mother.

That Somebody never helped a fourth grader with her math.

Somebody said you can’t love the fifth child as much as you love the first.

That Somebody doesn’t have five children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books.

That Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.

That Somebody never watched her “baby” get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten.

Or on a plane headed for military “boot camp.”

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back

That Somebody never organized giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married.

That Somebody doesn’t know that marriage adds a new son or a daughter-in-law to a mother’s heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother’s job is done when her last child leaves home.

That Somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don’t need to tell her.

That Somebody isn’t a mother.


1 comment:

Anonymous said...

happy mother's day